Saturday, December 1, 2012

Quiet Authority, Or Why No One Gives A Shit About Jersey Shore Anymore

It's strange how the things that made you afraid while young are so docile when you encounter them from the other side.
Fear is a funny emotion.
It also sucks major ass.
But screw it, I'm 21 mothafuckaaaaaaas!

Of course, one of the most important parts of a successful fraternity is respect.
It's what separates a brotherhood from a group of drinking buddies.
But it's a huge component of our daily lives, Greek system or not, and the concept has been hi-jacked by over-compensating douchenozzles.
Let's look at my definition:

Respect
  • Dictionary.com definition: "esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability"
  • FHP definition: The implied trust between two people that while their goals may not be the same, each can be assured the other will assist them.
The key word there is implied.
Unfortunately for Jersey Shore execs, there is a fact about life that doesn't seem to register with those fucking Einsteins.
We all know the asshole bragging at the bar that he's "gonna slay like there's no tomorrow"
We also all know, best case scenario, he gets a handy from a 4 in the parking lot.
And there is a clear reason for this:

 True confidence is quiet.

As I've pointed out before, confidence is a tricky fucker.
I can't really tell you why the people I know are confident (and thus far more likely to earn my respect), it is simply felt.
However, it is pretty damn easy to tell why some people are insecure.
Particularly those who try to publically pretend they are not.
It's not the man who boasts or relies on other's praise to be self-assured who is confident.
It's not the woman who needs male attention or craves the use of gossip for social gain who is confident.

It's the man (or woman) who doesn't need others attention to achieve self-actualization.

They simply enjoy the kinship of those who have earned their respect, confident or not.
When respect and trust are established between two people, it's a bond that isn't to be be taken fucking lightly.
Losing someone's friendship is reparable.
Just because you don't like someone due to their various stupid-ass shenanigans, they most likely haven't lost your respect.
Being liked and being respected are separate entities.
Would you rather be the tag-along "friend" everyone actually hates, or the man who prefers a true friendship to an assortment of petty acquaintances?
I'd choose the latter.
But if you like having people figuratively and literally piss all over you, go ahead.
Don't say I didn't warn you.

Count yourself lucky is that's the worst that happens to your bitch-ass.

Peace.
JF.


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